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To anyone has been wondering why I keep calling Nalini Singh Ms. Nalini rather than Nalini or Ms. Singh, here's a bit of clarification:
I was raised by my Wai Po (maternal Grandmother) for most of my youth and if I had gained anything from her was to be respectful. In American culture, it is customary to call people by their first names despite age differences as an elimination of status gaps and familiarity. By using a 'ms.' with a first name, I am trying to show respectful familiarity. It has nothing to do with one's martial status and everything to do with a personal preference. Also, I felt she would be more understanding than most people in this somewhat Asian formality of an honorific.
No, she isn't the only one I use this reference to, but Ms. Nalini is one of the few I directly call/write as such. A few other individual also have this formality reserved, but I usually call them that in my head. Also, a few are different types of respect so don't go thinking I have some order or list (*quickly crumples a sheet of paper and pops into mouth, starts chewing with a grimace*)
Being Chinese American is odd sometimes, of course, it doesn't help that I feel I'm black. <~~ a whole 'nother conversation that I'm still working out.