Friday, October 31, 2008
Tuesday, October 28, 2008
At the heart of all Ms. Nalini's writings are that, the heart. *happy sigh*
Saturday, October 25, 2008
I love reading sex scenes in romance novels.
(Should we insert gasps here?)
I love the hot sexy and heavy stuff a part of the romantic developments of these books that are an integral part of my life. Why romance and not erotica, you ask? Although sex can be fun (hey-I don't judge), when emotions are fleshed out into these plots, the scenes become a type of physical expressions of love and communications between the heroine and heroes.
(Can't believe I wrote 'physical expressions of their lurv' *cackles*.)
(Obviously, I'm going to being extremely bias as to the authors whom write books I devour.)
If the two characters start a relationship based on attraction, although not impossible, are never that believable for me. Which is probably why I don't read much ebooks (since most are erotica) anymore. If they're shagging every other chapter, how are the two character developing? Doesn't matter if they're friends beforehand, I need to see them develop.
(Years of separation may change sweet feelings to sexual, but doesn't mean they 'understand' each other the moment they meet again.)
Now...a problem that's beginning is making me more weary of love scenes and wanting to skip over them, aside from virgin orgasms (I'd like to daydream that it's possible) or coming on command (I believe this was brought up on The Thrillionth Page, but please correct me if I'm wrong, thnx ^.^):
Isn't there a little more to foreplay and sex than breasts? Always with the kneading, pinching and twisting. Um...it's not an etch-a-sketch and the constant licking and sucking...I keep thinking that the heroes have these oedipus tendencies. Yeah O_o. Really disturbing. Seriously, the more I read lately, the more I see of these hero breast obsessions. All I can see are little babies breast feeding and that is NOT the image I want in a romantic moment. Bleh. Totally turned off with the wheels coming to a horrific skid, full of metal screeching and rubber burns. Even as the heroes 'claim' to not care about how the heroine looks, these breast obsessions. Seriously mother issues...
The comics I really enjoy are debates about public breast feeding.
Yes, they're pretty. Yes, they're sensitive, but why do breasts take central stage all the time? The other is of course the little 'pearl' down there. Yes, I know oral sex is a sign of real and true love; when you do them without preconditions, that is (Coupling, BBC). But honestly, all I read are lips, breasts, and clit. Then it's shove it up, rattle it around and BOOM, the afterglow.
Ah, I'm being crude, but I cannot help it! This is in like every book I've been reading and frankly, this is getting annoying. >_<
No, not all authors write as such, but in greater and greater bulk do I see almost the same style of loving in my romance books. Is there a writer's sex scene handbook that says "concentrate on the breasts because all men are obsessed with those," " go for the clitoris because men don't get it good enough in reality" and "of course vaginal orgasm is a must" because this is a phallocentric society? Shouldn't it be about the woman's pleasure in a realistic enough sense? Or am I being too picky and detailed oriented? Ugh, now I'm starting to doubt myself. Bleh. Of course, I haven't even gotten into the big discussions about coercion, sexual power play, and the 'r' word (deep rooted issues) in romance novels that really turns my stomach (and mental trauma).
I really could go on and on, but that's not the point. The point is that I love reading the full on voyeuristic gleaming of a possible balanced, yet somewhat unrealistic relationship between two individuals. Granted, this is somewhat tied into my romance-novels-are-a-part-of-real-life theory, but then I'd have to go into feminist discussion, society hierarchy, and the possibility of hope and I just wrinkle my nose thinking about that long post.
All in all, actual scenes of the heroine and hero being intimate is a must and I want it done well. This is one of the few things that will convenience me this isn't some bizarre bunch of words being strung together for the sake of fame and glory.
How do you like your love scenes? Does it matter for you if it's purple prose? Overly graphic? Does it even need to be realistic? Or can you throw it out for a good solid story? Or does great stories get ruined by horrid sex scenes? Tell me your thoughts. :)
Wednesday, October 22, 2008
Josey is twenty-seven, living at home, and eats tons of the sugar infused candy hidden in her closet. Josey is trapped (emotionally, thus physically as well), never goes out except to drive her mother around and rarely speak to anyone except the housekeeper.
This all changes the day she comes home and finds Della Lee in her closet, looking like a drowned rat. Della Lee threatens to reveal Josey’s very extensive collection of candy (it’s like a candy store she created herself throughout the years) if Josey does not hide Della Lee. And this is where the story begins.
Two subplots follow Josey’s mother and a friend Josey makes due to Della Lee intervention, Chloe. Josey’s mother who seems like a self centered, controlling and unloving woman, but the subplot does a great job showing the layers of different individuals. Chloe’s going through a relationship heartbreak, unsure whether to move on or give the man another chance.
The Sugar Queen is a very soft and sweet book dealing with the complexity of life through the simplest things. Like sugar, something seemingly small and insignificant, is actually a part of everything.
Monday, October 20, 2008
Friday, October 17, 2008
A while ago I met someone that looked just like him. My sister and her bf both said so, but I didn't believe them until I saw him. Just as tall, with extremely similar features. He was a nice man, but it finally clicked in my head. G's gone. We might have had the beginning of something, but it was just not meant to be. At least not anymore. Being nice to others, wasting my time; none of it really matters because they would never treat me the way he did.
Thursday, October 16, 2008
Saturday, October 11, 2008
As with all relationships, there were ups and downs. Arguments and disagreements, but having been friends first and for so long, there were never mentions of breakups or even 'taking a break.' Bean and Angel loved each other. It was a love with the gentle foundation of childhood trust, the strong camaraderie of adolescence, and the unity of friendship and passion. They were family. Their families were families - so to speak. Their friends would switch between envy and teasing at the love Bean and Angel shared.
Slowly getting in touch, a friend had suggested Bean contact Angel's family without giving much reason why. Instead, Bean was contacted by Angel's family. It wasn't until Bean actually called had Angel's sibling spoke the truth.
Tracy tagged me for the Book Meme. :D
So here are the rules:
Grab the nearest book. Open the book to page 56. Find the fifth sentence. Post the text of the next two to five sentences in your journal/blog along with these instructions. Don't dig for your favorite book, the cool book, or the intellectual one: pick the closest. Tag five other people to do the same.
' "I know he must care about me; otherwise, why would he want to be around me?" she shared with me during one of our sessions.'
Seriously, I think everyone has done this at some point. So... whoever wants to play. Go for it. I know, I can be so lazy sometimes, but seriously. Pretty much everyone has done this!
Aymless also tagged me (I'm feeling so loved ^_~) for the 'I Love Your Blog'
The rules for this award are that you need to:
1) Add the logo of the award to your blog
2) Add a link to the person who awarded it to you
3) Nominate at least 7 other blogs
4) Add links to those blogs on your blog
5) Leave a message for your nominees on their blogs!
So, even though everyone and their grandmother probably already has this, I'm awarding this to:
Aymless - Yes, she gave it to me, but she's my blog buddy and has kickass reviews. Bow down to the alpha nerd. :D It's a good thing ^_~.
Ramblings on Romance - Two wonderful peeps that encouraged me to start blogging with very extensive stuff.
the Happily Ever After - The other wonderful lady that encouraged me and supported me to blog (among other stuff), all the while letting me live vicariously through her awesome blog of life and books.
the THRILLIONTH Page - Hilarious stuff. Absolutely hilarious. Especially the pictures and of course, the only place for kitty p*** *cough*
Ciaralira - Such wonderful stuff. Anything and everything nice. :)
EDIT: I just saw I got nominated again by Katiebabs on Babbling about Books, and More! I'm all embarrassed and so happy at the same time. Thank you everyone for even coming to read the odd bits of scribble I do. *bashful*
Tuesday, October 7, 2008
Lots of books to read.
AND, with the upcoming election: I found this site to be extremely helpful :D I've been waiting for a site that actually lists BOTH and ALL possible sides. I was taught that by an awesome teacher once, ya know. Too bad there aren't more of them.
VOTE, people! Even if I disagree with you, please VOTE!
have tons to write about soon.
Sunday, October 5, 2008
I've been thinking a lot lately, but never seem to get pass the thinking. Yet when I act, I don't think I quite think through my decisions.
Thinking so much that I'm no longer thinking. Jumbling mass of thoughts with no coherenty.
So many things to write, but the words just don't seem to come. So much to do and never know what to do or not enoughmoney or lack of timing.
I was going to go into blog hybernation, but I caved and was surfing at work. >_< Bought stuff I shouldn't have and didn't buy stuff I should have. Need to just save money under current economic situation.
My sample ballot came in and now I'm deciding if I should vote by mail or just go the day of.
If I'm a little slow in posting, don't worry. Doing some thinking. Hahaha.
Also, I'm reading a self help book. *gasp* I know. Having actually studied psych and read a lot of other self help books, I'm usually completely skeptical and critical of this type of books in general. This author, though, is really hitting me.
The Nice Girl Syndrome: Stop being manipulated and abused and start standing up for yourself
by Beverly Engel
It actually reminds me of a LOT of romance heroines and rather than annoy me, this author is presenting some really good points and possibilities. Even with disagreements, this book is helping me already: letting me know I'm not alone.
Going to write about it eventually. I'm still slowly moving through this book. I love my library. :D Horray to the Super Librarian.
Wednesday, October 1, 2008
Anyhoo~~~ let the meme begin.
Stuff I've read are in color.
1. Scary Stories (Series) by Alvin Schwartz
2. Daddy’s Roommate by Michael Willhoite
3. I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings by Maya Angelou
4. The Chocolate War by Robert Cormier
5. The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn by Mark Twain
6. Of Mice and Men by John Steinbeck
7. Harry Potter (Series) by J.K. Rowling
8. Forever by Judy Blume
9. Bridge to Terabithia by Katherine Paterson
10. Alice (Series) by Phyllis Reynolds Naylor
11. Heather Has Two Mommies by Leslea Newman
12. My Brother Sam is Dead by James Lincoln Collier and Christopher Collier
13. The Catcher in the Rye by J.D. Salinger
14. The Giver by Lois Lowry
15. It’s Perfectly Normal by Robie Harris
16. Goosebumps (Series) by R.L. Stine (really?)
17. A Day No Pigs Would Die by Robert Newton Peck
18. The Color Purple by Alice Walker
19. Sex by Madonna
20. Earth’s Children (Series) by Jean M. Auel
21. The Great Gilly Hopkins by Katherine Paterson
22. A Wrinkle in Time by Madeleine L’Engle
23. Go Ask Alice by Anonymous
24. Fallen Angels by Walter Dean Myers
25. In the Night Kitchen by Maurice Sendak(seriously?)
26. The Stupids (Series) by Harry Allard
27. The Witches by Roald Dahl
28. The New Joy of Gay Sex by Charles Silverstein
29. Anastasia Krupnik (Series) by Lois Lowry
30. The Goats by Brock Cole
31. Kaffir Boy by Mark Mathabane
32. Blubber by Judy Blume
33. Killing Mr. Griffin by Lois Duncan
34. Halloween ABC by Eve Merriam
35. We All Fall Down by Robert Cormier
36. Final Exit by Derek Humphry
37. The Handmaid’s Tale by Margaret Atwood
38. Julie of the Wolves by Jean Craighead George (I was very shocked when I first read it in my youth...and wanted to run away and live with wolves. Hehehe)
39. The Bluest Eye by Toni Morrison
40. What’s Happening to my Body? Book for Girls: A Growing-Up Guide for Parents & Daughters by Lynda Madaras
41. To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee (Such a classic)
42. Beloved by Toni Morrison
43. The Outsiders by S.E. Hinton (Double classic)
44. The Pigman by Paul Zindel (Are they kidding me? This book changed my life! It got me reading again.)
45. Bumps in the Night by Harry Allard
46. Deenie by Judy Blume
47. Flowers for Algernon by Daniel Keyes (it made me sad)
48. Annie on my Mind by Nancy Garden
49. The Boy Who Lost His Face by Louis Sachar
50. Cross Your Fingers, Spit in Your Hat by Alvin Schwartz
51. A Light in the Attic by Shel Silverstein
52. Brave New World by Aldous Huxley (if this is here, where's 1984?)
53. Sleeping Beauty Trilogy by A.N. Roquelaure (Anne Rice)
54. Asking About Sex and Growing Up by Joanna Cole
55. Cujo by Stephen King
56. James and the Giant Peach by Roald Dahl (mmm, peaches)
57. The Anarchist Cookbook by William Powell
58. Boys and Sex by Wardell Pomeroy
59. Ordinary People by Judith Guest
60. American Psycho by Bret Easton Ellis
61. What’s Happening to my Body? Book for Boys: A Growing-Up Guide for Parents & Sons by Lynda Madaras
62. Are You There, God? It’s Me, Margaret by Judy Blume
63. Crazy Lady by Jane Conly
64. Athletic Shorts by Chris Crutcher
65. Fade by Robert Cormier
66. Guess What? by Mem Fox
67. The House of Spirits by Isabel Allende
68. The Face on the Milk Carton by Caroline Cooney
69. Slaughterhouse-Five by Kurt Vonnegut
70. Lord of the Flies by William Golding
71. Native Son by Richard Wright
72. Women on Top: How Real Life Has Changed Women’s Fantasies by Nancy Friday
73. Curses, Hexes and Spells by Daniel Cohen
74. Jack by A.M. Homes
75. Bless Me, Ultima by Rudolfo A. Anaya
76. Where Did I Come From? by Peter Mayle
77. Carrie by Stephen King
78. Tiger Eyes by Judy Blume
79. On My Honor by Marion Dane Bauer
80. Arizona Kid by Ron Koertge
81. Family Secrets by Norma Klein
82. Mommy Laid An Egg by Babette Cole
83. The Dead Zone by Stephen King
84. The Adventures of Tom Sawyer by Mark Twain
85. Song of Solomon by Toni Morrison
86. Always Running by Luis Rodriguez
87. Private Parts by Howard Stern
88. Where’s Waldo? by Martin Hanford (someone has got to be kidding me)
89. Summer of My German Soldier by Bette Greene
90. Little Black Sambo by Helen Bannerman
91. Pillars of the Earth by Ken Follett
92. Running Loose by Chris Crutcher
93. Sex Education by Jenny Davis
94. The Drowning of Stephen Jones by Bette Greene
95. Girls and Sex by Wardell Pomeroy
96. How to Eat Fried Worms by Thomas Rockwell
97. View from the Cherry Tree by Willo Davis Roberts
98. The Headless Cupid by Zilpha Keatley Snyder
99. The Terrorist by Caroline Cooney
100. Jump Ship to Freedom by James Lincoln Collier and Christopher Collier
A lot of them I've read, but forgotten. A few of the titles sound familiar as if I've read them, but no real memories (left them blank).
I'm rather surprised at some of the books being challenged and kept asking myself if these people were serious. A few of the books may not be my cup of tea, but I don't want to go around stopping others.
So who hasn't been tagged yet that I can annoy?
Aymless (always going to bug ya)
Super Librarian (if she wants to play)
Sula (even though she's busy, I tag her anyways)
Sarai (whenever she has time)
Tracy (when she has time too)